15 Ways Finding a Job is Like Dating

15 Ways Finding a Job is Like Dating Finding a job is like finding a relationship, you cant really look for one, it sort of finds you. If you recall how you met your wife or husband, it wasnt because you were looking to meet your future mate, was it? You probably werent looking for someone to date either. I used to say stop looking and youll probably find what you are looking for. There is such a thing a trying too hard. Appearing desperate is not attractive, follow this link to find out how to overcome the negative stigma. Back to the relationship analogy, finding a job is just like dating. On iVillage there was a post about the 15 steps to finding a boyfriend and every single one of them applies to a job seeker. 1. Be realistic Know what you are looking for. And remember, it isnt about the money. 2. Be a hot mama, not a prospective mama Dont talk about a job too early in the process of networking, that is like talking about what you want to name your children on the first date. Be attractive first. 3. Make dating a priority Dating equals networking. You never know where youll meet someone. You have to meet a lot of people before you find the right fit for a relationship. 4. Nix the ex talk Dont bad mouth past employers or people, ever. 5. Neurotics neednt apply. You need to be emotionally healthy. 6. Mind your manners. Pick up an etiquette hand book if you are unsure of what constitutes good manners. Another reminder: turn your cell phone off before the date/meeting/interview. 7. Similarity breeds success. Is there a similarity in core values? 8. Present a challenge. Show interest but dont stalk. 9. Dont be a babbling brook. Know when to shut your trap and listen. The two ears, one mouth rule applies. 10. Sunny side up. Be nice. 11. Be a girl Dont debate or behave like you are in control. Male or female, you are a guest, show manners. 12. Look beyond his good looks. Look deeper than the surface. Are they putting on their dating best behavior? 13. Be mindful of that ole black magic. Pay attention to your gut instinct, if something seems to good to be true, it probably is. 14. Hold out before having sex OK, this doesnt really apply however, it is very similar to being offered a job, dont accept it on the spot! 15. Go with the flow. Be willing to compromise. Be flexible! Amazing how many similarities there are. Finding a job is like courting. It takes an investment of time. Hope this helps.